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Consolation of Christ Bereavement Ministry

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Our Staff

Ministry CoDirectors
CoDirector: Barbara J. Selletti, MS
Pastoral Counselor/Spiritual Director
Cert. Hypnotherapist, Biofield Therapist
CoDirector: Anthony L. Selletti, BS, LPN
Cert. Hypnotherapist

Words of Wisdom

Tears have a wisdom all their own. They come when a person has relaxed enough to let go and to work through his sorrow. They are the natural bleeding of an emotional wound, carrying the poison out of the system. Here lies the road to recovery. - F. Alexander Magoun

Spiritual Direction and Grief

I want to emphasize that spiritual direction does not replace counseling for grief recovery. Counseling is a very important part of the healing process for many people.

I entered the two-year training program to receive my Masters in Pastoral Counseling and Spiritual Direction degree.

This site leans more toward spiritual elements of the grief journey because I am trained spiritual director. So I will naturally function more out of that training and passion.

There has been much study and writing available on the psychological elements of grief but spiritual direction is much less known (although it is rapidly growing), so I will offer space for it here.

Regularly receive direction as part of the grief journey can aid in healing. It is not uncommon for people to have many spiritually-based struggles as a result of a major loss. Having someone to sit with and explore the spiritual elements of the grief journey can be very helpful. 

Understanding Spiritual Direction

To understand what direction is it may help to compare it to meeting with a counselor. When a person meets with a counselor, the two of them talk together to name a problem, explore it's development, and try to come up with ways the client can work to solve the problem. The counselor offers advice from their years of psychological study and expertise.

Spiritual directors are not considered experts in religion or spirituality. Historically it was largely monks, nuns, and priests who served in this role. But these days anyone who considers their spiritual journey an important part of their life and passion is eligible to train to become directors.

Another difference is that the conversation with a director does not focus on a problem. The conversation focuses on the directee's relationship with God or their concept of the Divine. They explore the directee's image of God, how he or she relates to God, and how God is present to the directee in daily life. If you have read much on this site, you have probably come across a few places where reflection questions are offered. Almost all of these are the type of questions a director would typically ask a directee.

Directors have been called the "midwife of the soul." They sit with a person to guide and assist in the process of the spiritual birthing taking place in the directee's life.

Most directors are trained to be able to give direction to people from any denomination or religious background. Direction is not about convincing someone to change their own theology. It is about finding out how God is working and being revealed in the directee.

Coming Soon!

St. Joseph's in the Hills Retreat House in Malvern, PA.
   We have confirmed another year of service at the Retreat House and look forward to working with the Men & Women of Malvern.
   Praise God for another opportunity to serve our brothers & sisters during their times of need.
   We remind everyone that we will be continuing to collecting food for the Bernadine Center and City Teams in Chester.
   Collections of new stuff animals for St. Christopher Hospital for Children and Children's Hospital of Philadelphia (CHOP) will also continue. Contact us for more information.

Biofield Therapy Sessions can be arranged by contacting one of the Directors

Pray for peace through the powerful intercession of Jesus, Mary, St. Michael and St. Francis.